Living with a disability does not mean not having urges, cravings, and fantasies like anybody else. The important thing to remember is that having a fulfilling, loving, and active sex life is still possible – it just might require some adjustments!
Tips that can help you enjoy sex regardless of your disability:
- Shift your mindset. Understand that there’s more to sex than penetration.
Hand jobs, oral, fingering, mutual masturbation, toys, and even sexting are other forms of sex you can explore for pleasure and even orgasms.
- Communication is vital. It’s important for you to be able to communicate to your partners what works for you and what doesn’t. Do you get sensations throughout your body? Do you lack sensations in certain parts of your body? Communicate this with your partner.
- Make foreplay the main play. Focus on pleasuring the erogenous zones. The erogenous zones are those parts of the body that when touched can send shivers and chills through the body. They include the ears, neck, and inner thighs, etc.
Things like temperature play (running ice cubes down the body) and even sensual massages with an oily lube are also something to explore.
And if you would like to engage in penetrative sex, here are a few sex positions that can be explored. If you’re using a wheelchair, you need to ensure you don’t slip out of the chair or hurt yourself, so use supports like pillows, and try having sex at the edge of the bed or right in the wheelchair.
Remember that sex is not a sprint, it is more like a marathon. So start slow. When it seems you’re getting in your head, remember to take a few deep breaths. Focus on pleasure. Savor the moment.
About the author: Elizabeth Adewale is a sex educator. Follow her on Instagram for more sex tips and educational sex content.
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