What Was it Like to Have Sex for The First Time? 

What Was it Like to Have Sex for The First Time? 

As basic as it is, sex is also very mysterious. Does it always hurt? Will I orgasm? Should I wait for it? There is no right answer and everyone has a unique experience. From pure love to mild disappointments, read below what some women anonymously told Find My Method about the first time they got laid.   
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I don’t have a clear memory about my first time having sex. I was 18; he was my very first boyfriend and it happened at my parents’ house. The lack of memories brings me two conclusions: first, it wasn’t as important as I thought and it was so spontaneous, I didn’t have the chance to prepare for anything. It was good; I had condoms in my bag and the courage to say “wait, do you have protection?“.

Movies, books, etc, tend to romanticize the moment so much that most women can feel disappointed if they don’t have such a romantic experience. I prefer to think that my first day at school wasn’t so good either, but I got better. Now I enjoy my sexuality much more and I have the experience to explore more alternatives with total freedom.

Don’t let your first time define the rest of your sexual life.

Tasty Taco Jr

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The first time I had sex was just a few days after I turned 30. I had never masturbated either, so had no idea what to feel. But I had read enough to know it is great and people love it.

My partner was the sweetest person ever. We both had liked each other a lot for a very long time and when we finally got together, there were many happy feelings – being able to touch and kiss each other, see each other naked. The first time we slept together in the bed, we just cuddled and talked. The next night we tried; he had experience and guided me. There was no penetration because I wasn’t wet enough and my partner came outside of me. I remember he asked “can I come on you?” (he meant if he can ejaculate on my body or should he get toilet papers) and I was confused because I didn’t even know the sex language – what is ‘come’? We had a brief awkward chat where I pretended to know what he meant and he clarified his intentions. 

All in all, there was a lot of saliva and sweat but no sparks. But I was so much at ease that I still love that moment.

Great Bloomer 

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Back view of sexy millennial couple lying on bed hugging and kissing during early weekend morning at home, loving husband embracing wife enjoying romantic moment, relaxing in bedroom together

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I was 21 years old (really old) and I had sex with my friend; everything was awkward and really fast. He came (of course) and I didn’t. It felt unreal and I didn’t enjoy much, maybe because I was wearing a really long dress and I was really drunk. But one thing I was sure of was that I wanted to do it again. 

SexMex

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My first time was kind of a surprise because it was something that I didn’t know anything about or how to start. I was 20 years old and it happened on my birthday. It was with the love of my life; our relationship was caring and fun and both of us loved each other. My fear was that I could get pregnant after everything.

That wonderful thing happened at his house and it was great. The foreplay was one of the best things that ever happened in my life. At that time no protection was used. I did not know anything about orgasm at that time but he did because he was older than me. It lasted for about an hour; there were so many new things he was showing me on that day.

At the beginning, I was afraid that something bad would happen to me; after that I felt a little pain but it was enjoyable. I learnt that for having sex with someone for the fist time, you both should love each other and be like best friends before entering into sex life.  

Lulu

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Sexy lovers kissing and playing in bed

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Whoa! That was the day! The first time I had sex was in my early 20’s. It was with my boyfriend, who is now my husband thankfully. We did not plan on doing it and only thought of doing foreplay initially as I feared the pain and was also nervous.

He came to my house and I was alone. We spent some hours together, drank some wine and then we started talking about the things we love about each other. It turned into a beautiful romance and he started touching me and kissing me and I felt so much warmth in his touch.

He pressed my breasts, sucked them, played with my nipples, touched me down there and I was so excited from this foreplay! It was hard for us to control and then eventually we started making out. He was on top of me and we enjoyed it so much, using the withdrawal method.

I don’t remember if I had an orgasm, I think I did but all I remember is that we had a gala sexy time together! We felt so relaxed and happy after that! The best thing was that he kissed me on my forehead after it was over.

The message I would like to convey to all the beauties out there as well as to all the men is that it was my first time and I did not bleed. It does not mean I was not a virgin at that time. It is not necessary for any girl or a woman to bleed during her first intercourse! In some countries, this is still a social taboo and is not discussed so openly. Some women will bleed after having sex for the first time, while others won’t and both are perfectly normal. Ditch this concept of “virginity”, love each other more with a pure heart and a pure soul. Sex never has to be perfect; it is about practice and the exploration makes it fun. 🙂

Aphrodite

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Sexy legs on lesbian couple in the bed

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The first time I had sex was super calm. I was 17 years old and it was with my first boyfriend. We traveled to have sex for the first time and it was just for 1 minute or something haha. I would like people to know that the first time can be more about the experience and the connections than the pleasure. Sex is something we learn and build on. 

HotGirl 

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Fortunately my first time was with someone with whom I was once in love; I was 19 years old and I felt that everyone had already had their first time. So feeling that I was the only one who hadn’t had sex (among my friends) pushed me a little to do it.

It was his first time too (or at least that’s what he told me); maybe it wasn’t true but of course we used condoms

The only thing that I feel was not so cool was that we did it in a motel, since we both lived with our families and it would have been impossible to do it at home. So, we skipped school and went to the motel. 

I consider myself lucky since it wasn’t really painful; most of the experiences other women have shared with me was that it was quite painful for them. 

It wasn’t that I had an orgasm either, but I was definitely able to enjoy it. The truth is that we knew all the positions from porn, because from where else? 

I was really happy after that because it was with someone I loved very much and I was finally able to experience what everyone was talking about. I would definitely recommend those who want to have sex for the first time to do it with someone you trust so you are comfortable enough to say what you like and what you don’t like. Also, in case of contracting STDs or having an unwanted pregnancy, to know that you are not alone and feel supported. Of course, I am no longer with that person; we do not have any type of relationship today but I do not regret it. 

Femme Fatale from Space

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Beautyful sensual couple in love standing semi nude embracing and kissing each other. Man hugging her passionately over her back

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When I had sex for the first time, I was 17 years old, and it was with my boyfriend at the time; he was 18. We were both very much in love with each other at the time. Our relationship lasted for 3 years, and we had a very passionate, young, childish, and beautiful connection. We were so in love that I think the love was beyond our years.

He was very gentle; the foreplay was very long and before it happened, that’s all we did – foreplay. And when we moved beyond foreplay, he was so soft that I didn’t feel the sex taking the place. 

Sex is a big deal for me. At the time, I was not realizing the importance of it. At 17, we tend to believe the person we are with is the last person we will be with, and that we will be marrying them and living together forever. Very young type of love 🙂 Very strong and powerful love as well. I am happy to have done it with a person I loved and who loved me back. We were so young and naive that we didn’t use protection, or I can not remember… Also, we both orgasmed; it was a very good experience for me and was not painful or anything like that. It was very much enjoyable. 

Then again, if I was to go back, I think I wouldn’t have done it at 17. I would have waited, and have done it for the first time with my current boyfriend. 

Divine Orisha

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I am always grateful for my first time, even though I am not with the person anymore. It was not intimidating; it was intimate and it came from love. But it also hurt, and I think we all have to talk more about that. There you are, first time having penetration – duh, it’s gonna hurt and you’re gonna bleed, but when it is with someone who respects you and cares for you, it makes it all just a bit better.

Missy Miss

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